So here we are a family of 5. Our 3rd child Alfie arrived on 29th December 2016 and he has fitted right in. Becoming a family of 5 was a little bit of a worry for us. Our girls have such a strong relationship. I know there are lots of siblings that don’t get on. We are lucky and we were nervous about rocking the boat.
When do you know if becoming a family of 5 is the right decision?
The answer is simple, you don’t. It is always a worry when introducing another child into the family. Would becoming a family of 5, and adding a third child into the mix upset the balance. I remember experiencing similar concerns when I was expecting Harri baby number 2. How would Meme cope not being the only child anymore? How would she manage having to share our attention? One on 1 time is already impossible at times. We honestly never needed to worry as Meme loved becoming a big sister. I can honestly say there has never been any issues with jealousy.
As I right this Alfie has just turned 5. I can honestly say that becoming a family of 5 has been the best decision that we ever made. The girls adore him. They always have since the moment he was born. Alfie was quite a tricky toddler and there have been many times when we have had to cancel days out because of his behaviour. But the girls never once resented this or are angry with him.
The cons of becoming a family of 5
There have been times that I have felt a little overwhelmed with trying to look after and entertain 3 children (especially during homeschooling and lockdowns). When Alfie was first born, Harri was still only 3 and still needed a lot of attention which was hard to juggle.
It is really hard trying to get any one on one time with my children. This last year my eldest has been working towards her 11 plus assessment it was important I spent time with her, having 2 other children all at home this was difficult.
Finally the expense of being a family of 5 is a lot. Holidays generally cater for a family of 4. A car to fit a family of 5 is another factor to think about. Now Alfie is old enough, like the girls he is doing after school clubs. Ours clubs bills are like paying another mortgage!
The Pros of becoming a family of 5
The pros of having more children will always outweigh the cons. I cannot believe they are all mine and they bring so much joy.
There is always someone around to play with. They will always have each other. There is so much love in a family of 5. You get to experience the joy of bringing a baby into the world 3 times. That moment they are placed in your arms is so so special. The oldest helps the youngest and it is lovely to watch.
However what I love the most is that our 5 year old keeps is all young. My 11 year old stills runs around with us, plays with toys, comes on bike rides, runs into the sea. He keeps us adults young too.
So whilst it is a bit of a juggling act at the beginning and even now there are times when I do not get a moment. There are too many demands from too many people. I will never regret becoming a family of 5.