Following some fashion rules

It’s hard to believe these days but I used to have a real interest in fashion. In fact, it was a passion of mine. I used to know all the current and upcoming trends, I used to be daring with what I wore and I also had clear ideas of what looked good one me.

Three children later and I have definitely lost my way. This is due to lots of factors, including having less money to spend on myself, not having the time to trawl through fashion magazines examining what’s on trend and Saturday shopping days being a distant past. I also have to admitt that some days, especially the last few months, I just haven’t cared about my appearance or what I look like. Now this is the one that really bothers me, I should care because it’s always been important to me. Now I can’t change the lack of money or the time restrictions (unless I have a little lottery win!) but I can change my mindset. I can and should still take pride in my appearance.

Self care is so important, as soon as we lose that, well I guess we lose ourselves a little. So I have spent the first couple of months this year reassesing my wardrobe and I have set myself a few little rules for the year ahead:

  • It’s ok to wear jeans the majority of the time. I feel comfortable and confident in them and also I am constantly running around looking after little ones, jeans just work for me. However, it’s not ok to wear the old, grease stained, faded jeans. I have sorted through all of the jeans I own and got rid of a lot and it was very much needed!
  • I need to remember to try and wear clothes appropriately. I get fed up wearing the same stuff all the time. The same big parker coat for winter, the same flat boots because they’re comfortable. I find myself stuck in a style rut and feeling a mess. However, I now know that I just need to dress for the occasion. Obviously, if I’m going on an adventure for the day at a National Trust then a big warm jacket and boots are required. Yet, if I’m going for a potter around the shops I can wear my leather biker jacket and my heels or if I am popping to the park and then a cafe I can maybe wear some trainers and chunky cardigan. I have been doing this a little more this month and I have noticed the difference.
  • Be organised. Gosh, I feel like I write that I need to be organised a lot. Although it is true, I need to get my outfits ready the night before, I hate doing this. I like to get up and wear what I feel like wearing that day. However, I know I don’t have the time in the morning to even think about what I want to wear, never mind find and iron it. This then results in me throwing anything on and feeling a mess for the rest of the day!
  • Buy new underwear! This was one of the first things I have done in 2018 and it was needed. Seriously, all my bra’s were years old and offered no support at all. I have treated myself to some nice new underwear and I feel better for it.
  • If I need something new, buy it. Seriously, I am terrible for buying myself new clothes. I use the excuse that I have no money or the kids need new clothes before me (which is so not true). This year, if I need something and it’s not going to break the bank, then I am going to buy it. If it boosts my confidence or makes me feel a little better about myself then it’s money well spent.

So, a few little rules that I have already started and I have already noticed the difference. I need to look after myself a litte more and take those important steps to feel more like my old self again and not just a Mum of three.

 

 

 

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32 thoughts on “Following some fashion rules

  1. Love the pink hat! So warm and cheerful 🙂 Those are pretty much my rules as well. You want to look nice and pulled together without having to give it much brain space as there’s so much else to do!

  2. Oh the underwear! I seriously need some new underwear! I feel like I lost my way after having children so I do have my ‘safe’ clothes. I should experiment a little more x
    #coolmumclub

  3. Sounds like you’re taking some great steps to where you want to be. My rut is more about not getting on and losing weight. So that’s what I need to get in gear.

  4. I’m so pleased! This was one of the things I wanted to work on this year, as I definitely felt a bit lost. It’s so hard when you used to be really into fashion and how you look, and then you feel like having kids that just disappears somewhere. I’m really guilty of just wearing the same thing all the time, so I’ve been buying more new clothes this year, and a few weeks back I bought a dress that I’ve been wearing whenever I get a chance. It’s pretty, long and floaty, and not at all what I would have worn a few years ago, but I feel really good in it and I think it suits me right now. I’m really glad you’re feeling like you’ve rediscovered yourself a little bit the last month, it really does make a difference. Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  5. It’s easy to forget about yourself when you have a family to look after so I think your post is great.

    I’m past that stage but as i’ve recently retired I’m having to rediscover a new weekday wardrobe as I’m no longer going into the office everyday ☺️

  6. I think a lot of it is how you feel. If you feel good in what you wear, it tends to look good. If you feel a shambles, you could be in the best dress ever and still look a bit run down….#KCACOLS

  7. I completely relate. I’m a firm believer in that you should wear what you’re comfortable with and in, but I am terrible for just slinging on a few favourites, no matter what I’m doing. I’m trying to work on that and remember to wear my “nice” jeans for being out and about, but my baggy ones for lazing around the house or off to soft play, a nice tee shirt or top for out, but a soft squishy sweatshirt for indoors. What doesn’t help is that in my “day job” we don’t have a dress code so I often go in wearing some smartish jeans and a top, but psychologically everything is blending into one. I’m making more of an effort to take care of myself this year. It’s not easy as a parent but I agree sometimes you have to spend a bit of time thinking about yourself, even in small ways. #MG

  8. I’m definitely guilty of wearing the same things day in and day out and not moderating. I’m always on the go so tend to wear for the most comfortable or relaxed activity! I’m trying to be more aware of that as I have some lovely things, I just don’t bother with them. Self care a definite theme for me this year. #MG

  9. I’m definitely guilty of wearing the same things day in and day out and not moderating. I’m always on the go so tend to wear for the most comfortable or relaxed activity! I’m trying to be more aware of that as I have some lovely things, I just don’t bother with them. Self care a definite theme for me this year. #MG

  10. Oh my goodness my underwear is embarrassing, I really need to invest in some new ones. I definitely have a mum uniform and I need to break free of it more. Hopefully when spring arrives I will get braver! Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  11. When I had Aspen it totally became about her and what she was wearing, I spent all spare money on her adorable outfits and somewhere along the line after baby 3 I think I lost a little of me, and didn’t even know my style anymore. It took a while to find me again and feel like I deserved time and new clothes. I totally agree with buying new underwear too, it makes a huge difference to feel beautiful under your clothes too. Thanks heaps for linking up xx #mg

  12. I am definitely guilty of wearing the same things all the time. I get all my outfits ready when I do all the school and work uniform ironing so I can just get up, pick something and get ready. But like you I do stick to the same thing a lot. Thanks os much for linking to #KCACOLS. Hope you can come back again next time.

  13. This is definitely a goal for me this year! All of my clothes are falling apart and I havt taken no time for myself after baby. Needed to read this today! Thank you for sharing with #Sharethebloglove

  14. I’m definitely in a style rut and am trying hard to move away from hoodies every day. New underwear definitely has a huge impact because it instantly makes you feel better and want to dress better.
    Thank you for joining #FamilyFunLinky x

  15. I totally relate to this, I used to have an amazing wardrobe and love to experiment with fashion. Now I live in jeans or my dressing gown! #sharingthebloglove

  16. I am pretty much a dumb male. I have no fashion sense. The idea of buying new underwear is something that I need to follow. Thanks for the reminder. #DreamTeam

  17. New underwear is crucial, I just stocked up on things because I couldn’t believe how long it had been since I had replaced anything. It does make a difference. #DreamTeam

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