It’s hard to believe these days but I used to have a real interest in fashion. In fact, it was a passion of mine. I used to know all the current and upcoming trends, I used to be daring with what I wore and I also had clear ideas of what looked good one me.
Three children later and I have definitely lost my way. This is due to lots of factors, including having less money to spend on myself, not having the time to trawl through fashion magazines examining what’s on trend and Saturday shopping days being a distant past. I also have to admitt that some days, especially the last few months, I just haven’t cared about my appearance or what I look like. Now this is the one that really bothers me, I should care because it’s always been important to me. Now I can’t change the lack of money or the time restrictions (unless I have a little lottery win!) but I can change my mindset. I can and should still take pride in my appearance.
Self care is so important, as soon as we lose that, well I guess we lose ourselves a little. So I have spent the first couple of months this year reassesing my wardrobe and I have set myself a few little rules for the year ahead:
- It’s ok to wear jeans the majority of the time. I feel comfortable and confident in them and also I am constantly running around looking after little ones, jeans just work for me. However, it’s not ok to wear the old, grease stained, faded jeans. I have sorted through all of the jeans I own and got rid of a lot and it was very much needed!
- I need to remember to try and wear clothes appropriately. I get fed up wearing the same stuff all the time. The same big parker coat for winter, the same flat boots because they’re comfortable. I find myself stuck in a style rut and feeling a mess. However, I now know that I just need to dress for the occasion. Obviously, if I’m going on an adventure for the day at a National Trust then a big warm jacket and boots are required. Yet, if I’m going for a potter around the shops I can wear my leather biker jacket and my heels or if I am popping to the park and then a cafe I can maybe wear some trainers and chunky cardigan. I have been doing this a little more this month and I have noticed the difference.
- Be organised. Gosh, I feel like I write that I need to be organised a lot. Although it is true, I need to get my outfits ready the night before, I hate doing this. I like to get up and wear what I feel like wearing that day. However, I know I don’t have the time in the morning to even think about what I want to wear, never mind find and iron it. This then results in me throwing anything on and feeling a mess for the rest of the day!
- Buy new underwear! This was one of the first things I have done in 2018 and it was needed. Seriously, all my bra’s were years old and offered no support at all. I have treated myself to some nice new underwear and I feel better for it.
- If I need something new, buy it. Seriously, I am terrible for buying myself new clothes. I use the excuse that I have no money or the kids need new clothes before me (which is so not true). This year, if I need something and it’s not going to break the bank, then I am going to buy it. If it boosts my confidence or makes me feel a little better about myself then it’s money well spent.
So, a few little rules that I have already started and I have already noticed the difference. I need to look after myself a litte more and take those important steps to feel more like my old self again and not just a Mum of three.