Are you struggling with pregnancy?

Are you struggling with pregnancy?

I am struggling with pregnancy. This is my 3rd pregnancy and I feel like I should have a special badge – ‘professional’ – ‘done this before – twice!’. My body has already experienced this change. It should be easy. These are the crazy thoughts that run through my head and maybe other people’s heads. The 1st pregnancy is scary, the unknown, not knowing what to expect. The 2nd pregnancy was being pregnant whilst still trying to juggle one child. I expected to know it all by the third.

Being Pregnant – The reality

How wrong was I? I think a bit like child birth I guess, we are programmed to forget. Forget how hard being pregnant can actually be. I am only 16 weeks in with hopefully a long healthy road ahead but I’m exhausted, I have no energy whatsoever. I have to set my alarm clock every day for 2.30pm to wake me in time for the school run just in case I nod off (I never do – I have a 3 year old to care for). You forget how pregnancy can really take its toll.

Somedays I feel cross with my myself, with my body. This is my last pregnancy and I want to enjoy it, I want to embrace this time of my life. I want to take pictures and write blog posts celebrating my growing bump. To look back on this time with fondness. I never felt this with my first 2 pregnancies and I’m worried I wont with this one.

Pregnancy After Loss

Maybe I expect too much, I have been pregnant every month this year – 7 months. My body is tired and, although I am so happy to be expecting, it still feels twinged with sadness. Pregnancy after loss it hard. I should be 8 months pregnant, planning and excited for next months big arrival. I’m not sure if this is what is making me so grumpy andĀ irritable. I’m not sure why but I can’t seem to get over my miscarriage. I want to move on and be happy that we have got a second chance to have our rainbow baby.

I’m feeling frustrated. I have had two babies already. There should be no surprise that my clothes aren’t fitting. I should’t be so grumpy that I need a constant supply of food, Appreciate that I will be be tired – I’m building a baby. I should understand that every single hardship is worth every single second once my baby is placed in my arms. The thing is I just don’t like being pregnant. I want to. Oh how I wish I did. It is embarrassing that I don’t. There are women who would love to be in my position.

However I think now, with my third child, I need to admit that whilst I love my children and I can’t wait for the birth of my 3rd baby. I don’t enjoy pregnancy. The sickness, the hormones, the exhaustion…and that’s ok.

Are you struggling with pregnancy?


20 thoughts on “Are you struggling with pregnancy?

  1. We really are our own worst critics – you sound like you’re doing great. You could try a one-off pregnancy yoga workshop. I found them amazing when I was pregnant (albeit my first and only) and it will give you the time and space to just ‘be’ with this baby. #fortheloveofblog

  2. Don’t be too hard on yourself lovely. Pregnancy is tiring. I was lucky that my three year old napped while I was pregnant so I used to have a little nap too. But your body is doing an amazing thing. xx

  3. Every pregnancy is different and you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. Growing a brand new life takes it out of your body mentally and physically. I was lucky that my third pregnancy was my easiest, as it’s definitely hard work juggling pregnancy with the demands of two small children! Hope you enjoy the coming few months.

    1. Thanks Sarah – my 3rd is easier in some ways I was so sick with the girls so I am pleased that is not the case this time! Nobody wants to be sick on the school run!!

  4. I admire absolutely anyone with any number of children, they are super charged little things that could keep going till the end of days. You’ve already grown two amazing little ones and you’re now growing a third whilst caring for two very energetic ones. It’s SO so tiring and without naps it can be so tough…even without anyone at all to look after. I was all creaky and in pain with my second. I mostly just shuffled along and z used to always tell me to hurry up. You will get there and your body will do amazing things all over again. For now, I hope you get lots of bonus nap time somewhere along the line xx

  5. Don’t be so hard on yourself lovely, you are creating a little person and its tough! It doesn’t matter how many times your body does it, it really doesn’t get any easier. Looking after little ones whilst being pregnant is the hardest thing I have ever done, but when you hold your baby in your arms it will all be worth it. But you know that šŸ™‚ sending hugs x Thank you for joining us for #SharingtheBlogLove

  6. I think you’re right, we must block out all those awful things about pregnancy, otherwise we’d never go through it again! I found it to be far worse than the labour – the unendingness of it is so hard. I think as soon as you find out you’re pregnant, everything suddenly starts to feel so much more tiring – it’s such a huge physical thing to grow a human, it makes sense that we’d be tired! Like everyone has said, don’t be too hard on yourself – I’m sure you’re doing an amazing job. I adore that photo of you and your girls (and bump!) Thanks so much for joining us again at #SharingtheBlogLove

  7. Be kind to yourself lovely. I agree with a previous commenter, I absolutely relied on yoga when I was pregnant, it completely kept me sane in all three of my pregnancies but especially Ernie’s. well, I probably should have done more of it because I did slightly lose my mind by the end haha but it’s ok now, and it’s all worth it! keep your eyes on the prize! xx

  8. You often forget how physically demanding pregnancy is especially when you have other children to care for, you can not just stop and rest. I remember feeling so tired with my third, a lovely long bath helped me unwind after the other two had gone to bed. #maternitymondays

  9. Aww no, don’t be so hard on yourself. Pregnancy is hard work no matter how many times you’ve done it. I think it probably gets harder the more children you already have to look after. I’m 34 weeks and exhausted so I know how you feel. I hope the rest of your pregnancy passes quickly and you can enjoy some parts of it xx #maternitymondays

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