What is next?

What is next?

Growing up I always dreamt that I would have a big family. I always imagined having 4 Children. I then met the man of my dreams, got married and had my first child Meme and it was like whoa this is tough – having 4 Children quickly became a distant memory.

A couple of years later I had my second child Harri and, as a family of 4, it was like she was the final piece of the puzzle. I love my girls and I feel so lucky to have my little family.

The last 6 months the question on our lips is – are we done? Is our family complete? We just cannot decide. I guess my heart says yes, I would love another child. There is no better feeling than when you hold your newborn baby for the first time and feel that rush of love. I remember when Harri was born and holding her close to me thinking this cannot be the last time I experience this magical moment. I love being a Mum and think I’m good at it.

But then there is my head, should I be happy with what I have got and stop pushing my luck. We have such a strong family unit, will another child change that? There are also other factors, financially can we afford another child? We have a lovely lifestyle would that change? Would that change bother us?  I also do not enjoy being pregnant, I hate writing that because I know it is such a gift that some women cannot experience but I was so poorly with both pregnancies and could I cope with that again whilst looking after 2 Children? Also, the decision might not be ours to make, maybe 2 is our number.

Another child though, what a blessing that would be, so much love and joy, another excited face at Christmas, another set of achievements and firsts, another chair at our dining table and the list goes on.

I am a firm believer in what will be, will be. Who knows what our future holds. Whatever happens I will be thankful for what I have got, a home full of love.



11 thoughts on “What is next?

  1. Go with your heart, I had this same debate from 3 to 4 after also wanting a large family at first, then came the triplets, I got my large family! It was so hard at first but now they are all older I love my big family. #TwinkleyTuesday

  2. I was the same way before we had our third child. I agree with Coombe Mill – go with your heart. That’s what we did & never looked back 🙂 #TwinklyTuesday x

  3. I always imagined myself with two children and I ended up with five. Sometimes you simply have to let fate decide……to a point, and then my husband swiftly booked in for a vasectomy!! #sharewithme

  4. I love this, I feel just the same. Deep down I know we couldn’t manage another child, not yet and maybe not ever financially but my heart still says I would love another one day. Like you say what will be will be, there may come a time when you know for definite one way or the other and either way you will be happy xx

  5. This was us just a few months ago. I always thought LL was our final child but even as we went through the baby days, I still couldn’t imagine her being the last. We talked about a third child for ages- whether we could afford it, whether we could give three children the same special experiences as two, things like three pairs of school shoes at the start of term, three seats on airplanes etc. But at the end of the day our hearts ruled our head- family is more important than all that and I want a big family and three amazing little people to call my own. good luck with your decision. x

  6. I always wanted a boy and a girl. Luckily I got those so we are done. Imagine if we had 2 boys. Keep going until we have a girl lol No, but 2 children is the capacity. #sharewithme

  7. I often feel the same having one son and one daughter that both pregnancy were easy and smooth as well as the births and they both sleep and we are now out of diapers with both am I being greedy to want to start all over again. Would a third make us move house, change cars and never go on holiday again. It’s such a hard thing to look out than I think that’s all selfish things having a big family is all I ever wanted more love more cuddles and there is nothing better in life than having a baby. It’s touch I can relate hun. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

  8. This is us right now as we have a huge box of baby clothes and I’m not sure what to do with them. Im one of three so always wanted 3. Then I had Z and it was like woah! I think my magic number is now 2 if I’m honest. If I was a lot younger I’d consider another. I think it’ll come to you and I think every family has their own magic number x

  9. Mr Lighty and I have this debate almost daily at the moment and we only have one child. You’ve hit the nail on the head with all your points. Will keep an eye out for a blog post to see what you decide!! 😉 I found your post through #fortheloveofBLOG 🙂

  10. Such a difficult question to answer isn’t it? I struggle with the same question daily. I felt exactly the same when I held my daughter for the first time but like you, I am so extremely poorly during pregnancy that I’m not sure I could go through it again. I tend to think you only regret the things you don’t do though, not the things you do do. Good luck and thanks for sharing on #fortheloveofBLOG x

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