This weekend we celebrated our 6 year wedding anniversary. Six years – I can’t believe how fast the time has gone – it has been a flurry of having children, new jobs, new homes and adventures.
May 14th was not our original wedding date, we were actually due to be married on 17th September 2010 – the venue was booked, the wedding dress was ordered – very unlike me who usually leaves everything until the last minute – I was nice and organised, everything was completely on schedule. Then came January and it all changed… we found out that we we were pregnant, due on 18th September!
After the shock of our surprise pregnancy we had the dilemma of what to do over the wedding – it obviously needed to be changed. Should we bring it forward or delay it until the following year? There were pros and cons to both options but, after some deliberating, we decided to bring it forward. After a few frantic phone calls we managed to change all our plans to the 14th May, exactly 10 months after we had got engaged.
After a busy few months and a lot of pregnancy sickness, our big day arrived. The weather was miserable but we didn’t care. It was a lovely day filled with friends family and love. It is a day I will never forget but was it the best day of my life? If I’m being honest, the answer is no.
I always knew I wanted to be married and have a big fairy tale wedding with the love of my life. My parents have been happily married for 38 years and are very much in love, this is what I wanted. I know marriage isn’t for everyone but I always knew it was for me and I was lucky enough that my partner felt the same. However, when you are younger you have no idea what life is going to be like, you imagine an amazing extravagant day looking like a princess and being the centre of attention – I guess you don’t look past the day. I now know that it is the actual marriage that is important. It is hard work, it is always being prepared to compromise and sacrifice, it is being supportive, it can at times be exhausting and it is a forever learning curve.
I have learnt a lot these past 6 years. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world, loving my husband is incredibly easy – he is amazing. He is mine. So, whilst our wedding day on 14th May 2010 was perfect and we made this life long commitment to each other, there are many more special times in the six years that have passed which hold more much value to me. Like the day we became parents and we held our Children for the first time, like playing piggy in the middle with girls on a sunny afternoon, like having a glass of wine together on a Friday evening and chatting about our week, like the cup of tea he brings me every morning in bed, like the way he held my hand tightly whilst we were sitting in A&E after we suffered our miscarriage, knowing how scared I was… All these moments, some special and some ordinary are the reasons that I love being married to my husband.
Here’s to the next six years….(of cups of tea in bed!)