Marriage

This weekend we celebrated our 6 year wedding anniversary. Six years – I can’t believe how fast the time has gone – it has been a flurry of having children, new jobs, new homes and adventures.

May 14th was not our original wedding date, we were actually due to be married on 17th September 2010 – the venue was booked, the wedding dress was ordered – very unlike me who usually leaves everything until the last minute – I was nice and organised, everything was completely on schedule. Then came January and it all changed… we found out that we we were pregnant, due on 18th September!

After the shock of our surprise pregnancy we had the dilemma of what to do over the wedding – it obviously needed to be changed. Should we bring it forward or delay it until the following year? There were pros and cons to both options but, after some deliberating, we decided to bring it forward. After a few frantic phone calls we managed to change all our plans to the 14th May, exactly 10 months after we had got engaged.

After a busy few months and a lot of pregnancy sickness, our big day arrived. The weather was miserable but we didn’t care. It was a lovely day filled with friends family and love. It is a day I will never forget but was it the best day of my life? If I’m being honest, the answer is no.

I always knew I wanted to be married and have a big fairy tale wedding with the love of my life. My parents have been happily married for 38 years and are very much in love, this is what I wanted. I know marriage isn’t for everyone but I always knew it was for me and I was lucky enough that my partner felt the same.  However, when you are younger you have no idea what life is going to be like, you imagine an amazing extravagant day looking like a princess and being the centre of attention – I guess you don’t look past the day. I now know that it is the actual marriage that is important. It is hard work, it is always being prepared to compromise and sacrifice, it is being supportive, it can at times be exhausting and it is a forever learning curve.

I have learnt a lot these past 6 years. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world, loving my husband is incredibly easy – he is amazing. He is mine. So, whilst our wedding day on 14th May 2010 was perfect and we made this life long commitment to each other, there are many more special times in the six years that have passed which hold more much value to me. Like the day we became parents and we held our Children for the first time, like playing piggy in the middle with girls on a sunny afternoon, like having a glass of wine together on a Friday evening and chatting about our week, like the cup of tea he brings me every morning in bed, like the way he held my hand tightly whilst we were sitting in A&E after we suffered our miscarriage, knowing how scared I was… All these moments, some special and some ordinary are the reasons that I love being married to my husband.

Here’s to the next six years….(of cups of tea in bed!)

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48 thoughts on “Marriage

  1. This made me all emotional, such beautiful words! It’s true though isn’t it. Our wedding was an amazing day, but there have been so many other amazing days I couldn’t choose ‘the best’ day! Happy Anniversary xx

  2. Such beautiful words and I couldn’t agree more about how there are a lot more little moments that follow, and big moments too that are even more special. I loved our wedding day though. And how is that for timing though, finding out you were due on the day after your potential wedding day! Happy anniversary lovely. xx

  3. oh you sound like you have the most beautiful marriage – it’s so wonderful to read this – cups of tea and chats in bed are super special and speak volumes #KCACOLS

  4. What a lovely post. Happy wedding anniversary. Mother and Father have been married for a couple of years and they have found that they have found the real strength and core in their marriage through having me, and all the challenges I bring 😉 #KCACOLS

  5. I absolutely love this! I agree and feel totally the same about my marriage, the wedding day was nice, but just a day. The years that followed were where we really showed our commitment to each other, buying and selling houses, having three children, supporting each other through tough times, those are the bits that matter more to me. I hope you had a lovely anniversary and guess what? I was married on 18th September 2010, your due date! Xx

  6. Oh wow, what a stunning photo too. A really lovely post that me feel a little bit emotional. I will be honest with you and say that I don’t think our wedding day was the best day either, it was a wonderful day but I woundn’t class it as my best day. There have been so many other amazing days that I rank above it. I hope you have a fab anniversary! We are celebrating 10 years in August and having three nights child free! Eeeeeks #stayclassy

  7. I just got a little teary reading that, such a gentle beautiful post of love. Congratulations on 6 years. I have only been with my partner for four and it is both amazing and challenging. I love that you describe marriage not just a wedding day, though you look so beautiful in the picture 🙂 I hope you have many more years #KCACOLS

  8. Happy Anniversary! It sounds like you are both really there for each other and have a wonderful marriage. Hope you have many more happy years to come growing old together. Thanks for sharing with #KCACOLS and can link up with Franca on Sunday too x

  9. This is so sweet! Completely agree marriage (or in my case, being committed to someone) is hard work, as you’ve said, there is a lot of compromise and is a huge learning curve. But then you have these moments, like a glass of wine at the end of the week or a big hug at the end of a hard day and you realise how much you love your partner, it is the best feeling in the world. Now I’ve had new moments since my son’s birth, like the first time he laughed, my boyfriend was tickling him. I’ll never forget that! Thanks so much for sharing with #StayClassy!

  10. Lovely, lovely post. And Happy Anniversary! Tea in bed first thing every morning is pretty amazing. Currently I get whacked in the face with a book/toy/left over snack by an over excited toddler. #fortheloveofBLOG

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