What do you miss?

Now I love my children and I love being a Mummy, however being a parent is life changing and there are a few of the simple things that I miss from my BC (before children) days.

  • Freedom – to come and go as I please. To get in my car and drive. To spontaneously go on a night out, I miss this. Now I have children, I make a plan and pretty much 5 hours later leave the house!! A night out is planned with months of preparation and, usually in my case, cancelled hours before I am due to leave the house due to a sick child!
  • High heels – I know being a Mummy doesn’t mean I have to stop wearing them and I still occasionally do. However, BC I wore heels every day, I feel nicer in them, smarter. Before I had Children I don’t think I even owned a pair of flat shoes. Now I spend the majority of my days doing school runs, chasing Harri in the park and taking Alfie for walks, my converse are my shoe of choice.
  • Chatting to my friends. Seriously, I miss sitting and chatting to people. Having actual conversations and listening instead of always being preoccupied trying to entertain Harri or comfort Alfie.
  • Choices – I miss watching my programmes – sometimes I want to put a Mummy programme on instead of Sofia the First, sometimes I want to listen to the radio in the car instead of Disney Princesses. I miss having a choice.
  • Sleep – oh this is a big one. Oh how I miss sleep. Going to bed when I want to, waking up when I want to –  having lazy mornings in bed whenever the mood takes me.
  • Time – like most parents of little ones I literally have no time ever. Me and my husband often say to each other what did we do before children, we must have had so much time! Before I had children I thought I was busy…oh I had no idea!
  • Relaxing – not in the sense that you think although that kind of relaxation would be nice. I mean in the sense of not having to be thinking and watching all the time. To not have to do a risk assessment in my head every place we visit. To not worry about stuff all the time. With Children I feel like I constantly need to be switched on!
  • Travelling lightly – to leave the house with the tiniest handbag. Obviously now I have a 12 week old baby I take everything with me. Bottles, nappies, spare clothes. However, even before Alfie was born and I just had my girls I still carried snacks, drinks, crayons, paper, dolls etc around with me. I can’t remember the days I held just my money, phone and a lipstick in my bag!
  • Money – earning a full time wage and spending it on whatever I liked. I used to spend an obscene amount of money on clothes, shoes and makeup. Now if I am in need of new make up I head to the cheaper products rather than the Dior counter. Even when I do have a little money I really struggle to spend it on myself, I can’t help but head straight to the children’s clothes section.

Whilst I certainly wouldn’t change my life now (it is filled with much more love, fun and adventures than ever before), I do sometimes miss my old carefree life…just a little.
Is there anything that you miss?

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40 thoughts on “What do you miss?

  1. Don’t worry and don’t throw out your heels!! They’ll be a time in the not so distant future that you get to enjoy them again—besides, it’s cute when your little ones try them on!!
    Jodie
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  2. Sleep is high up on the list, I don’t give in to alot of things (the radio in the car stays on radio!) but sleep and high heels and travelling lightly I completely agree with – oh and nipping out – or even being out between 5-8pm so simple but so weird that we just never are! #sharingthebloglove

  3. Yes to many of these. The main one for me is to be able to dance when I wanted. Now even though I might have booked it in for a specific night, I have to make sure the OH is back from work – he’s rubbish at remembering I’m meant to be dancing. Also being slim. I really struggle with food and putting on weight/sticking with a diet. Not helped by lack of exercise thanks to only dancing once a week instead of the 4 I did before #sharingthebloglove

  4. Oh gosh, all of these! You don’t even realise it’s happened, it’s like a switch just flicks, and then you find yourself looking back with that sense of nostalgia for your old life. The ability to just pop out on a whim I really miss. I used to love makeup shopping too – I’ve recently subscribed to Birchbox though, which is a lovely and cheap way to get my little fix. And no effort required as it just arrives in the post, I highly recommend it! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  5. Sleep is high on my list as well – gone are the days when I used to have lie-ins that lasted pretty much all day on Saturday or Sunday. Binge watching DVD sets with the hubby is high up there as well – we’re lucky to go through one episode without one of us falling asleep lol! xx #TheListLinky

  6. Sleep is high up there as well for me – gone are the days when I used to have lie-ins that lasted pretty much all day on Saturday! Binge watching DVD sets with the hubby is high up there as well – now we’re lucky to go through one episode without one of us falling asleep lol 😉 xx #TheListLinky

  7. Yes to all of these! I miss being able to be spontaneous, to just deciding that tonight we will go out for dinner or to the cinema. I think the biggest one for me is sleep, I can’t wait for the day this is no longer on my list. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

  8. Oh yes to all of this! And also not having kids when you have a hangover! Hangovers suck anyway but with kids that’s jus extra painful!! #SharingtheBlogLove

  9. Yes, I can relate to most of these for sure. I also miss being able to eat what I want when I want without either having to hide it because it’s something I don’t want my daughter to be eating or, worse, sharing it! It’s probably been a bit better for my health…or I just end up gobbling cake to recover in the evenings. Haha! You’re right that they are small losses in the grand scheme of things. #SharingTheBlogLove

  10. Yes! I agree with every single one. Though I would never change my life, I do miss these things!
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  11. Heels! I never owned flat shoes before I had kids, not even trainers. I always wore heels and loved them. Now every pair of shoes I own are flat. The other month I had an impulse buy and brought some heels, they’re still sat in the box! #MarvMondays

  12. I miss hiking. I wasn’t very good at it but I did like the views. Once my girls got too big to carry, their legs were still too small for big walks. Then their complaints get mightier and louder! Definitely on a loser there. #SharingtheBlogLove

  13. I’m not well today. As much as I love my boy more than life itself, when I get sick I miss being able to just lie in bed and sleep it off. I seem to take much longer to get better from things these days as I don’t have the time to rest! #sharingthebloglove

  14. Love this post, I really miss being spontaneous on the weekends – these everything is a military operation dictated by Emma’s naps! Congrats on being my #dreamteam featured blogger of the week xx

  15. Agree with all these (apart from high-heels – although luckily the preferred shoe type of many dads, the loafer, was also my shoe preference before). I have noticed though that as they get older, you slowly start to get some of these freedoms back 🙂 #SharingtheBlogLove

  16. I struggle with time and I struggle with freedom to do my own things when I want to. I miss just sitting and reading a book on a sunday. I don’t really want to go to soft play/another bloody party or do play doh! #KCACOLS

  17. Being able to stay up later and sleep in a bit is a big one. I’d also like to be able to get out and see my friends a bit more #KCACOLS

  18. I miss being spontaneous and laughing with my husband. We only ever get time for two sentence-essential information only conversations at the moment so we don’t laugh together as much as we used to. Plus we are a lot more sober these days as well which probably contributes. #KCACOLS

  19. YES YES YES! I miss the freedom to be spontaneous and just being able to jump in the car and go. I also miss peeing in peace lol! Thank you for linking up with #KCACOLS we hope you join us again next time!

  20. I miss weekend lie ins, an uninterrupted nights sleep, spending the day reading my book, popping to the shops to get some dinner rather than always having to plan meals, spontaneity. Pen x #KCACOLS

  21. Lie ins! Sleep! Oh how I miss those lazy sunday mornings with the sunday papers sprawled over the whole bed. Mind you I wouldn’t change a thing though with my lovely boys.

    Mainy

    #KCACOLS

  22. I used to go to a lot of concerts and festivals. Now I don’t have the time or money to do this. But the time with my kids is amazing, so I am still winning at life lol.
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  23. I definitely miss being able to leave the house with just my phone and keys rather than a huge rucksack full to the brim with nappies, wipes, bottles and bibs! I also miss the come and go freedom too. I can’t even go to the gym anymore without extensive planning! #KCACOLS
    Of course I love them more than anything but I do miss a bit of freedom!

  24. I miss sleeping in. I miss just being able to sit and play xbox for hours without having to watch my son. I miss sleeping full stop. #kcacols

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