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How do I stop feeling overwhelmed?

How do I stop feeling overwhelmed?

How do I stop feeling overwhelmed? I would describe myself as a positive person, quite laid back and not one to sweat the small stuff. However, lately I feel like I have been struggling with a few things. I have been poorly. This has been a factor but I also feel a little anxious about everything. I feel like there is so much whirling around in my head that I don’t know how to deal with it all. Most days I am fine but every so often this feeling of pressure creeps over me.

How do I stop feeling overwhelmed?

How do I stop feeling overwhelmed?

I find that tiny non-important things build up in my head. An example of this is Meme’s gym shoes no longer fit. She needs a new pair, something as simple at that. Something I can easily fix. However this somehow has been magnified in my head. I have made it into a massive issue causing me to stress about it. Really – gym shoes!? I know all I need to do is to take Meme the shop and buy some but I seem to struggle with it. I know I need to develop coping mechanisms on how to stop feeling overwhelmed.

At the moment I have so much to remember

There are appointments, parents evenings, dance exams, swimming lessons, Dr appointments – the list is never ending. I actually feel like I’m drowning in a sea of school letters and party invitations and I honestly can’t see a way out. Some days it is all to much

At the moment I just keep thinking ‘if I could just get to the weekend I will get back some control’. At the start of  the week I positive and life feels more managable. However by Wednesday I am getting tired and feel like I’m chasing my tail and feelings of anxiety start to creep.

I know I need to try and get organised.  To sit and plan and ensure I have a couple of hours to get things done. To try and stop falling into this state of panic and, more importantly, to try and keep everything in perspective.

Do you ever feel simply overwhelmed by life?

do you ever feel overwhelmed

 

 

35 thoughts on “How do I stop feeling overwhelmed?

  1. I think secretly or not so secretly we all feel like this sometimes. As mum’s we are always running from one job to the next. I think over the years I have learnt to embrace the chaos and accept that I will never ever be organised again! #Sharingthebloglove

  2. I feel exactly the same lately. Well, always in fact! I got myself into such a massive state yesterday over some simple emails I had to send…they were just emails. It took two minutes, but they were yet more things on the never ending list of things to do and it just all adds up sometimes and seems like too much. #Sharingthebloglove

  3. I know I felt like this a lot in the early days of the twins…it is completely normal and try not to put too much pressure on yourself to do it all, it’s still early days as you get used to running around after three kids, you need to give yourself a break too lovely! I know the more things I have to do the more I put it off, I’m terrible at stuff like that! xx

  4. Oh gosh yes, I totally understand. So flipping difficult to get everything done isn’t it? I end up just not doing little things that would take a matter of minutes. It’s rubbish. I agree that getting organised would be so helpful but I don’t even feel like I have the time to do that!
    Nat.x

  5. I went through this exact thing and it was after I popped into work on maternity leave just to have lunch with my friends. A few days later something ticked in my head and I started to feel so anxious for weeks and weeks and my HV eventually told me to go see my GP. He was so wonderful, bless him. He really helped with the anxiety. i referred myself to CBT and they taught me lots of practical things to cope with a lot at once. I think I’m waffling on to basically say if you find yourself falling deeper into anxiety then there is help out there xx

  6. I’ve never really felt that overwhelmed. I have rants and moans, but since having N I know that I drop things all the time that I would never have forgotten before. I think as you get older you just don’t worry about the little things anymore. #sharingthebloglove

  7. Yes all the time! The amount of letters, text messages and emails we receive from the school is crazy. I know deal with them the minute they are in the house. I fill in forms and put them straight back in her bag, otherwise I forget and they get lost. This seems to be helping. I also now have a list on my phone so I can keep in check with things. It’s tough and don’t forget Alfie is still tiny and you have a lot on your plate. x #KCACOLS

  8. yes I totally know what you are saying! Trust me you are not alone. I felt so much like this when mine were little, and even now. Sometimes I just wish we had nothing on, but there is always something and I get so overwhelmed. I have to accept that at times I need support as my anxiety can get truly bad if I don’t. I think we want to be in control, to have order in the chaos, but sometimes we just need to stop, breathe and accept that having kids is chaos, that we can’t ever control everything and find the beauty in each day. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, and know that you are amazing even if at times it doesn’t feel that way. Sending massive HUGS #mg

  9. I totally understand what its like for you as I’ve been there going through the same thing over and again day after day and then, someone mentioned keeping ten minutes aside every morning to do some deep breathing and then focus on the things only for the day. It was a great way of organising the mind because thats where the clutter seemed to be for me. Do ask for help for things you could delegate and also taking just a few tasks at a time and finishing them off before tackling the rest alos helps. Sending you plenty of positive vibes and hugs. Take heart in the fact that this too shall pass someday. 🙂

  10. Oh yes, I hear you. It’s always something seemingly small that sends it over the edge too. I find using a bullet journal or just doing a brain dump and getting everything out of my head and onto paper helps. It might not get things done any faster but it frees up my brain so I’m not stressing over it quite so much. Hope you find some breathing room soon x
    #Mg

  11. Oh this is so true. I think since the children started school those feelings of being overwhelmed have only worsened, there is always something to remember and Im always panicking that I’ve forgotten something and that’s me who is incredibly organised with diaries collated and all on the kitchen calendar. I wonder if there’s too much pressure on mums to coordinate it all. My head is always spinning. I don’t have the patience for yoga or meditation but do find running with my favourite music helps me when I’m feeling overwhelmed, I think it exhausts me physically rather than the mental fatigue. Take care x

  12. Yes! Frequently and it is the little things. Lists are my only salvation and then prioritising. It always amazes me how quickly I can actually tick things off, it’s just that the thought of them all is too much. When things get really bad you need someone to go through everything with you and tell you that it’s all do-able. Just to give us some perspective, which I know goes out the window when we’re stressed. Alison x #mg

  13. I feel like this all the time! I let really small things get on top of me and then I end up exploding like some crazy lady! I find it helps if I keep all my appointments in diary and on the calendar. I also like to try and make notes for blog ideas and to do lists otherwise that also gets on top of me! Your definitely not alone #KCACOLS

  14. I think we all can feel this way at times. Even retired my life is still full and sometimes I need to take a step back and breathe. This year I started a morning ritual of having a coffee, quite time and 10 mins of yoga to ease into my day. I know it is hard with a family but if you can do this you will feel so much more relaxed to start your day. Hope you have a relaxing weekend.
    Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond.

  15. It is easy and understandable to feel overwhelmed when you have little ones. I end up writing all the things I wish to do down and prioritising. Ticking things off gives me a sense of achievement #mg

  16. Congrats this post was the favourite from last weeks #mg linky! I think it shows us that so many of us feel this way, you are not alone. Thank you again for supporting #mg Stop by tomorrow and grab your featured writers badge xx

  17. You are so not alone lovely. I have felt this exact same way since having my second baby, the anxiety and constant overwhelming feeling really kicked around the time my baby was 9weeks old and I had to see my health visitor and GP for some help and support. This best advice I was given was to stop putting so much pressure on myself to do everything and that everything doesn’t have to be perfect. Once I stopped feeling like I had to do everything all of the time I started to feel better. I hope you can start to feel less overwhelmed soon, you’ve got 3 kids and Alfie is still so little..you’re doing amazing!x #mg

  18. Yep – absolutely it happens to us all. If it helps, when I feel like this I get a massive piece of paper and write down everything that is on my ‘mind to do list’. I always feel that once I’ve done it that it’s documented somewhere. I then go through and the things that are urgent can be easily seen. I often find (and I’m looking at one I did a couple of weeks ago) that most things will stay on there as they aren’t actually that urgent and some have gone away. The important things I will have done. It sounds simple but I think once we get to that state when we are overwhelmed, we cannot sort the urgent from the non-urgent and the important from the unimportant. Once it’s out of my head and on paper, I feel like I can start again. I must now actually look at my list and see what I can just cross off. Worth a go. I swear by it. Nicky #KCACOLS

  19. Yep – absolutely it happens to us all. If it helps, when I feel like this I get a massive piece of paper and write down everything that is on my ‘mind to do list’. I always feel that once I’ve done it that it’s documented somewhere. I then go through and the things that are urgent can be easily seen. I often find (and I’m looking at one I did a couple of weeks ago) that most things will stay on there as they aren’t actually that urgent and some have gone away. The important things I will have done. It sounds simple but I think once we get to that state when we are overwhelmed, we cannot sort the urgent from the non-urgent and the important from the unimportant. Once it’s out of my head and on paper, I feel like I can start again. I must now actually look at my list and see what I can just cross off. Worth a go. I swear by it. Nicky #KCACOLS

  20. I think we all feel overwelmed now and again. Being a parent means there is so much to do and remember. I try to write a list of everything that needs doing, it feels good to see things getting ticked off.
    #KCACOLS

  21. I’ve been feeling a bit like this lately. I’m not sure why and like you said, I know what the solution is so why I am not doing something about it I dont know. I think we all get a little overwhelmed now and again. Hopefully it wont last too long. Hugs to you. ? #familyfun

  22. At the moment I feel just this way. There is always a job to do, it’s never ending, I’m dashing here and there and trying to juggle everything in life. I think us women may over think far too much in our day but trying to make ourselves stop is easier said than done. #familyfun

  23. If you get 2 comments from me I apologise but I hit enter and it told me I had already said that! lol
    My last comment was along the lines of we all feel like this and I think as women we find it so hard to switch off. We are always dashing around, have a list of jobs to do, cleaning, chores etc and we put far too much pressure on ourselves. You aren’t the only one #familyfun

  24. Oh I feel totally overwhelmed at times and it is all consuming. It keeps me up of a night thinking of all the things I need to. It’s exhausting, literally. I don’t know the answer, I just hope things will slow down eventually and I’ll at least feel like I have more control. Thanks for joining us at #familyfun

  25. I can relate to all of this totally – sometimes I spend more time worrying about something like the gym shoes than it takes to actually sort it out – ridiculous! #familyfunlinky

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