Things I never thought I’d do….

I have written many a post on how much I have changed since becoming a Mummy – my style (or currently lack of it), my interests, my job, my friendships.  I wasn’t expecting to change, I honestly thought that everything would be exactly the same except I’d have a little tribe with me at times – naive hey?

There are also things that I never thought I’d do:

  • Let my child have a Kindle/ipad at such an early age – yes, I used to see other young children with tablets watching films in cafes, cars and many other places…..they are so young, what are their parents thinking? But now, both my girls have a Kindle and are allowed to watch it on long journeys – it’s called survival.
  • Get their own way – hmmm no comment needed except lets just pick our battles.
  • Choose their own clothes – they would wear what I wanted them to. I struggle to have a say these days – I can buy them all kinds but if they don’t like it they wont wear it.
  • Have toys all over the house – everywhere. I try but I fail, miserably.
  • Turn into my Mum – yes I find myself coming out with all kind of mumisms like – ‘School are the best days of your life’ or ‘you don’t know your born’ or even worse ‘in my day’ – I can hear myself saying these and I am cringing inside but yet I just can’t stop them from coming out!
  • Make packed lunches for Meme – I was determined she would be having school dinners, there was no way I was making packed lunches for her every morning, no way whatsoever – this lasted around 2 weeks and I have been making her lunch ever since, at the moment I can’t see a time when I wont have to make packed lunch!

There are also things that I thought that I would do:

  • Go to lots of baby groups, make lots of Mummy friends and fit right in – nope, in fact I have only just started making friends now Meme has started school. I hated the baby groups, I hate the cliques and quite frankly I never quite fitted in.
  •  Still go out with my friends – I very rarely do this. It is quite funny because before you settle down and have children your friends are your whole world and everything revolves around them.  Now I never see or speak to them – all I can say is thank god for Whatsapp.
  • Become a grown up – I just really thought parents were grown ups, I thought my Mum and Dad knew everything, possibly the same way my girls think I know everything. I don’t, I am basically making it up as I go. When they fall and bang their head I don’t know what to do and when they don’t eat their dinner I don’t know what to do. When they have no friends at school to play with – I’m clueless! My parents were too – we are all just winging it – who knew!

Do you do things that you never thought you would?

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53 thoughts on “Things I never thought I’d do….

  1. It’s funny isn’t it. I think we just make it up as we go along. I’m not a fan of baby groups either, plus with four now there just isn’t the time for anything like that. Thanks for linking to #sharewithme

  2. Hee hee so true I have made more friends since the boys started pre school and school. Yes I sound like my mother all so true ? #stayclassymama

  3. I can absolutely relate to the kindle thing, I cringe when I think of the judgemental ‘i’ll never do that!’ kinda comments I’d come out with before being a mum! #stayclassymama

  4. I could have written this word for word. I think most have grand ideas but in the end you just do what you have to do. I tell you what I do about the dressing themselves – if we are home they can wear what they like but if we go out they know I get to choose- works most of the time haha! x

  5. I definitely hear my mum’s voice coming out of my mouth sometimes and it always makes me do a double take! I pictured myself doing all the baby groups too, but the reality was that Max just cried most of the time which made it very difficult to strike up a friendship with anyone. I also had ideas of getting my figure back and being a lovely stylish mama – turns out I don’t care as much as I thought I would! It’s nice to regain a bit of my interest in looking good, but I still have days where I just can’t be bothered! Thanks so much for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  6. As a parent of a teen, there’s a million things I thought I’d never do…and yet I do them. Parenting makes you chuck your preconceptions out the window. #StayClassyMama

  7. I always hated seeing kids sitting in shopping trolleys. But shopping takes soooo long with N trailing round and whining. It’s only been recently when I’ve put my foot down and said no more. I’m mortified I’m one of those parents who let their kids sit in them. #sharingthebloglove

  8. I could have written everything single one of these. I pick my battles every day, I have no say over clothes and my girls watch the iPad on a long journey in the car. I too thought I would make friends when I had children and in fact I haven’t. I hated baby groups too and stopped going. I now worry about making friends when Alice starts school in September and I think I am the only blogger who doesn’t have a blogger friend to chat to. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove Laura x

  9. oh gosh my list would be endless lol. I agree with the technology one, I never liked seeing it and yet now it can be the only way to my sanity staying in tact (well at least a bit of my sanity is in tact). There are some things I am glad I have stuck to, like never smacking my kids. But many others I have just had to learn and accept I knew nothing before becoming a mum and we are all just learning as we go #mg

  10. Mine would totally be allowed to watch the iPad in the car if it didn’t make him throw up. The only reason it’s banned is because I don’t fancy trying to make the screen vomit free :). And I’m totally turning into my Dad I think!! I always swore I wouldn’t!

  11. I think we are all winging it!! Also friendships can be tested if your child rearing ideas are vastly different so you tend to migrate to your similarly minded friends- such a learning curve every day! And I am totally a carbon copy of my mother now! great post #mg

  12. Aw I love this Natalie, such an honest post. Isn’t it funny how we are so sure of the sort of parent we will become and then WHAM it all goes out of the window when we have our own. That’s why I get cross with ‘non parents’ when they judge, you certainly learn fast what’s important and what’s not. And yes, we totally turn into out mothers! Tor xx #mg

  13. I can see how it can be possible to come out with the same things as your mum. I’m sure I do it too from time to time. There’s a lot we differ on too. #mg

  14. If it helps… I thought I’d be a grown up by now too, and I definitely haven’t managed that! I’m now certain I still won’t feel like a grown up when I’m 90! #sharingthebloglove

  15. I never thought I would give my baby a dummy and I thought I would do sleep training. The baby had other ideas. I agree thank god for WhatsApp. #SharingtheBlogLove

  16. Love this! I particularly like the Mumisms – I can totally relate. My son said he was ‘starving’ the other day, to which I responded ‘you are not starving, children in Africa are starving….’ It was at that point I realised I had turned into my mother…. eek! #Sharingthebloglove

  17. Ha ha, I have to agree with every single one of these. Before I actually had kids I thought I knew it all, turns out I knew nothing, and still don’t!
    #SharingtheBlogLove and #TheList

  18. I have to agree with you on some of these, my son is almost 2 and I keep saying that he won’t have a phone until he is 14 (the age I was) but I see more and more primary school children with them so I suspect I shall give in long before he turns 14. Thanks for sharing. #sharingthebloglove

  19. What’s that saying? ‘I opened my mouth and my mother came out.’ So true! I sound more like her everyday. It’s easy to judge when you’re not in the hood, but once that ‘mama’ label kicks in you do what you need to for survival. Important to remember we are ALL doing a great job! x #SharingtheBlogLove

  20. I really liked reading this post and I have to admit that the majority of what you have said are things I said I wouldn’t do but I do lol Also the things that you said you would do and haven’t. I really do not like groups, I don’t have the time for cliquey people and drama, me and the boys just do our own thing! #sharingthebloglove

  21. It’s so easy to make dos and don’t decisions theoretically, isn’t it. I continue to learn to pick my battles and stay flexible when it comes to certain expectations, with my toddler. I’m just glad we make it to bed time in one piece on most days 🙂

    A good list that many parents will relate to. 🙂 #MaternityMondays

  22. we definately are all just winging it, such a great way to put it! I definately thought I’d make loads of mummy friends at baby groups, not a chance! I’ve only just started to have a couple of people I see about once a month outstide of groups, its good but baby steps! Thanks for linking up to #FamilyFun. Hope you can come back next week!

  23. Oh I’m with you, my daughter is using the iPad as we speak ? I do so much I never thought I would – whatever gets you through the day I say. I’m the same about being a grown I often feel like a child playing adult and the. Realise that actually I am the adult! Argh. Thanks so much for linking up at #familyfun. Hope to see you again next week xx

  24. I could relate to almost all of this! I agree with your comments on baby groups – I find them really cliquey too and have never made any friends there, but I still go because they help give my week a bit of structure! #familyfun

  25. My 4-yr-old loves her Leap Pad. I was convinced with the eldest it was evil. But I’m now sold with the youngest. It’s funny how perception changes when reality hits.

    I don’t understand the packed lunch bit? It’s accepted fact here and a treat when it doesn’t happen. We pay extra for this service once a week called “Lunch Lady” to bring in lunch for them so we don’t have to make it. It’s like weekly parent Christmas. ONE. MORE. SNOOZE. #momsterslink

  26. I never thought I would let my kids go out in public looking like a homeless kid but I tell you what there are sometimes I just don’t have time to get 3 kids under 7 dressed to the nine and out the door on time. Plus it just doesn’t matter how much I brush my 4 year olds hair…5 minutes later it is A MESS! Thanks for linking up with #momsterslink :))

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